Leave U

i have found out over the past couple weeks that a long distance relationship is not an easy feat for me. the trials and tribulations of who calls who, how many times you should talk a day and not being able to see what your man is honestly doing hundreds of miles away can turn even the sweetest of girls into monsters. but is it really our fault or do men just have a way of making us feel as if we have to constantly worry. i have a friend who is in a long distance with his girlfriend. they've been together for about two years and just recently he had to move away. they talk almost 3 times a day, and they both trust each other implicitly. he has the freedom to spend time with girls and she with guys and they both completely trust each other, no questions asked. i tend to be a little more on the spazy side. i'm 100% positive that my distrust in guys comes from situations in past relationships, just as many other ladies' has, but if a guy really loves you he'll be patient and prove his trust to you... right? anyways last night my man and i got into one of our infamous long distance fights. the entire thing started out in the morning when i told him that i wasn't sure if i wanted to continue with the relationship. he got mad at me and we argued a little bit, then he decided he wanted to ignore me, which was fine because i had to go to work anyways. when i got off, as i was driving home, we continued our conversation, and in true boy fashion, since all arrows were pointed at him he just wanted to drop everything and talk about how my day was. i continued the fight... it escalated to the point that we were both yelling, i was crying a little and to tell you the truth everything happened so quickly, but i don't remember all the details 100% but i basically ended up dropping everything as i usually do and he was content, anyways the conversation finally came to an end with my infamous get me off the phone now line, "well it sounds like you're busy, so i'll just talk to you later." and he ended the conversation with another one of his infamous empty promises.
this morning one of my girls called at the perfect moment, i told her what happened and she made the perfect point to me. even though ya'll don't know about my past relationships, i've been through a lot. it took over six months to get back into the dating game and i'm still dealing with my trust issues, so i don't deserve to feel bad at all about any relationship. if someone wants my heart they're going to have to work for it. so no more crying and no more thinking about it, which will be pretty much impossible but the one thing i am for sure not doing is calling him. he's the one whose going to have to make the effort and i'm not feeling very forgiving at this point so it's going to have to be a big effort. if he doesn't feel like it then i guess i'm going to be back on the market... until i figure out what's going to happen i'm just going to focus on my work, friends and most importantly myself. from here on out it's all about me!
I'm a music fanatic so i love it when i find the perfect song to go with a situation that i'm dealing with and a couple weeks ago i stumbled across Kandi from the Real Housewives of Atlanta's new single, "Leave U" which accompanies my situation perfectly, not to mention i just love the song in general. give it a listen :-)

communication commitment

in my opinion a relationship is a union where both sides should be consistently treated with the same amount of respect by their partner. but what if the guy's communication waivers??? say the guy for a majority of the time is extremely into you, but there are times that you question his fidelity or commitment to the relationship, what do you do? for instance when i call and he tells me he'll call me back in 5 minutes, i expect a call within the next half an hour, but if i have to wait 5 hours to hear back and even then there was another call and a bitter text sent, what is the proper way to handle this situation? get mad and go off on the boy? interrogate him? ignore the indecent completely? give him the silent treatment? what? i hate having someone who has a hold over me like this! the silent treatment would probably be the route to take, but i think for tonight i'll give him one more call and then hit the hay regardless... there's no use going to bed upset...

current carrie

this is my 1st official blog ever... i'm basically your average girl, in love with fashion and being in love; i often find my thoughts consumed by these topics during the day. i'm one of those people who gives great advice to my friends and even to myself, however when it comes to me implementing my own advice i generally suck at it. so through this blog i hope to combine the perfect proportions of shopping advice, relationship advice and sex advice to make for an interesting read, and maybe in the process i might just learn something as well as assist others with their life obstacles whether it be to splurge for the perfect pair of manolos, commit to a relationship with the same man for a third time, or how to handle those mornings when you wake up next to a complete stranger wearing nothing but a sheet. i'd in some way like to think of myself as current carrie bradshaw, but i guess we'll just have to see how the advice flows, my blogging career could be very short lived. anyways, that's a little intro for me and right now i hear my satin sheets calling my name! goodnight everyone...